Thursday, November 20, 2008

the tale of two very different men....

In the wake of the Disc Golf Fiasco, i have been thinking a lot about integrity.

What is it that drives someone to live a life of full integrity? Is it an internal force, or an external force? Perhaps it comes down to the simple, yet complex reality of self-esteem. A confidence in who you are that leads to you knowing that mistakes and failures in judgment do not necessarily decrease your value as a human and leading you to pursue truth rather than to deception.

Here are two very contrasting news stories, which do you relate to?:

A WOMAN is divorcing her husband after he told her it was an "iPhone glitch" that sent pictures of his genitals to another woman.

The man's wife, "Susan", consulted Apple after finding a close up and erotic image of her husband in his sent emails folder.

When she confronted her shocked husband he blamed the message on his phone.

But Susan, understandably a little dubious, decided to ask for advice on an Apple help forum.

She explained the situation saying: "When I approached him about this he admitted that he took the picture but says that he never sent it to anyone.

I think your marriage has a glitch

"He claims that he went to the Genius Bar at the local Apple store and they told him that it is an iPhone glitch: that photos sometimes automatically attach themselves to an e-mail address and appear in the sent folder, even though no e-mail was ever sent."

She asked her online helpers for information on the alleged glitch, saying her marriage depended on it.

But she found that the issue has never previously been reported on Apple's support forums.

Instead, she was offered advice on her ailing marriage.

"It's a glitch, but only happens if the pic is sufficiently raunchy," one user said.

"I think your marriage has a glitch," added another.

Susan said she was working on divorce proceedings and thanked everyone for their input.


Wed Nov 19, 2008 3:50 pm EST

J.P. Hayes is as honest as we like to think we are

The true test of a man's character is what he does when no one is watching. John Wooden said that, or maybe it was Spider-Man. Whatever, it still holds true; being noble and upstanding is easy enough when you've got people watching, but when you're alone with yourself, when you could do the wrong thing (or avoid the right thing) and get away with it, well -- that's when you find out what kind of person you are.

By that standard, then, J.P. Hayes is among the best that sports has to offer. He played a nonconforming ball for a single hole of the second stage of Q School last weekend. He realized it more than a day after the "violation," called it on himself, and thus disqualified himself from Q School ... with some severe, career-altering effects down the line.

So how did this go down? So easily, you'll cringe:

On his 12th hole of the first round at Deerwood Country Club last Wednesday, Hayes' caddie reached into his golf bag, pulled out a ball and flipped it to Hayes, who missed the green with his tee shot. He then chipped on and marked his ball. It was then that Hayes realized the ball was not the same model Titleist with which he had started his round. That was in violation of the one-ball rule, which stipulates that a player must play the same model throughout a round.

Okay, so, two-stroke penalty, no big deal. He recovered well enough to put himself in position to finish in the top 20 and advance to the third and final round of Q School. The top 25 finishers in that round, plus ties, earn exempt status for the entire 2009 PGA season. So, breathe deep, think about how close you came to disaster, then tee it up for the next round.

Only, while Hayes was breathing deep, he realized something else -- not only did he play the wrong ball, he might have played a ball that wasn't even approved for play at all.

"It was a Titleist prototype, and somehow it had gotten into my bag," he said. "It had been four weeks since Titleist gave me some prototype balls and I tested them. I have no idea how or why it was still in there ... I called an official in Houston that night and said, 'I think I may have a problem. He said they'd call Titleist the next day. I pretty much knew at that point I was going to be disqualified."

Now, the easy move here would be to either do nothing or blame the caddy. Hayes rose above both those temptations, putting all the blame on himself and asserting that everybody else on the PGA in his shoes would have done the exact same thing. We'll never know, but let's hope so.

Also, Hayes already has more than $7 million in career earnings, so it's not like he'd consigned himself to another year working the counter at the Quik Stop. But still, knowing you're taking yourself out of the running for a year of career stability and wealth takes some serious situational ethics.

Would you do it?




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